Well not really inside of a pickle, but you know what I mean.
My oldest son has a friend at school (where Lebron James went) and she's 15. Well, one of her good friends is the 14 yr old daughter of the president of the company I work for. No big deal right. This said 15 yr old I'll call G has posted pics on the internet of her and three of her friends (including L the 14yr old) in front of Blockbuster dressed rather ummmm provocatively. They had on very low rise shorts or sweats, tank tops and here's the killer, bras and thongs on the outside of their clothing. The poses were very sexual in nature. I have to say I was shocked. Taking pictures like this out in public is appalling in my mind especially for 14 and 15 yr old girls.
The dilemma is that I'm sure the pres would not approve, do I tell him? I would want to know. You know what else bothers me is that G mother (yes, mother) took those pictures. What the hell?
Anyway, after D showed me the site last night, I went downstairs and talked to my sons for half hour or 45 mins about the portrayal of women in the media. I want them to understand that the reasons girls may do something like this is a reflection of how women are raised to think that being sexy and pretty are what identifies them. Uhhhh I'm so pissed off that we still hold pretty and sexy above smart and wonderful. Well you can imagine that after about 15 min I lost them to eye rolling and the tune out. I tried to be short, I really did.
Any thoughts?
My oldest son has a friend at school (where Lebron James went) and she's 15. Well, one of her good friends is the 14 yr old daughter of the president of the company I work for. No big deal right. This said 15 yr old I'll call G has posted pics on the internet of her and three of her friends (including L the 14yr old) in front of Blockbuster dressed rather ummmm provocatively. They had on very low rise shorts or sweats, tank tops and here's the killer, bras and thongs on the outside of their clothing. The poses were very sexual in nature. I have to say I was shocked. Taking pictures like this out in public is appalling in my mind especially for 14 and 15 yr old girls.
The dilemma is that I'm sure the pres would not approve, do I tell him? I would want to know. You know what else bothers me is that G mother (yes, mother) took those pictures. What the hell?
Anyway, after D showed me the site last night, I went downstairs and talked to my sons for half hour or 45 mins about the portrayal of women in the media. I want them to understand that the reasons girls may do something like this is a reflection of how women are raised to think that being sexy and pretty are what identifies them. Uhhhh I'm so pissed off that we still hold pretty and sexy above smart and wonderful. Well you can imagine that after about 15 min I lost them to eye rolling and the tune out. I tried to be short, I really did.
Any thoughts?
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"Well you can imagine that after about 15 min I lost them to eye rolling and the tune out."
Very seldom can one voice of reasonable thought drown out 24/7 worth of media soundbites. Especially when talking to kids. Our grandchildren will probably have ten-second attention spans. People just aren't being taught to think for themselves anymore.
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You got through fifteen minutes of talking to teenagers before the eyerolling started! WOW!!!!
A youth minister from the church they attend told us about the pics and that the mom took some of the pics. My girl D works there. Our kids know each other through school and inter-parish dances. Also their dad belongs to the country club that my sons' grandfather belongs to. I send them to catholic school because the public schools here are some of the worst in the state.
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You write a good post here, Free.
Though it is said women should be able to wear what they like and not expect to be attacked by men, this is pushing it too far.
If a mother takes explicit pictures of her daughter, what does she expect them to be seen as?
The young women need to be educated on what a woman's body means to others, and it is meant be part of themselves, not exploited and dawped at by others.
You could print out the blog and pics and send it via inter-office mail to his office. Anonymous, mission accomplished, out of your hands...
I'm here courtesy of Michele.
You're welcome to visit my site, but I have a sneaking suspicion that it might not be your cup of tea.
Read your post today - for what it's worth, I have two (much younger) kids of my own and I find it's a full-time gig worrying about MY offspring, let alone getting involved with someone else's.
I'd leave it alone if it happened to me. Diming out a kid for pictures which were taken by another parent wouldn't be a situation in which I'd feel I had any sort of moral high ground.
My $0.02
J
After waiting for some comments, I wanted to let you know what I decided and it's to do nothing. I'm with J-Roc on this one.
As many people that prob will look at those pics, they will find out about it without any interference from me.
The only way I would is if I was best friends with her mom.
Gosh.
The last time a woman agreed with me was when I proposed a divorce...
Good for you for having the conversation! My boys are young, but I am already trying to instill in them that substance is more important than appearances. It's a tough one when they're being bombarded with mixed messages.
I would want to know if those were my kids...I'd be horrified, but I'd still want to know.
Thanks for visiting me earlier and for leaving the nice note! I hope you'll be back and I'll definitely be back to visit you as well.
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